If both of you feel comfortable in the bedroom, then everyone will benefit.
If you are a married woman, the odds are good that you are largely in charge of decorating the house. This holds particularly true in the bedroom, where feminine ideals of romance tend to take firm hold. However, if you succumb entirely to your personal tastes in the bedroom decor, you may actually end up making your husband feel alienated in his own bedroom. Use these tactics to keep your husband feeling welcome and like the bedroom belongs to him, and you will both enjoy your bedroom as a haven and retreat rather than just a place to fall into bed at night.
Instructions
1. Hang art on the walls instead of photographs. While family photographs are a wonderful thing to have on the walls, having the kids smiling down at you in bed can dampen the mood and also distract you if you have a child that may be encountering issues of some type at school or home. Abstract art tends to be slightly more masculine, is easy to create or purchase inexpensively, and makes a room seem at once more coherent and more modern.
2. Place a fully equipped nightstand on either side of the bed. Each partner should have a clock that they can see from the bed--unless one of you does not want to know what time it is--and a lamp that can be turned on from the bed. In this way each of you are in control of your side of the bed and neither one has to climb over the other or risk disturbing the other to determine what time of night it is or to do a little late night reading.
3. Keep an attractive, large in plain view. Hampers hidden in the closet tend to get substantially less use, and a nice wicker hamper will actually add to a room while removing a common source of conflict and distraction from the room by eliminating clothes on the floor.
4. Install alternative seating. Use a loveseat or other type of chair or sofa--depending on how much space you have--so that you do not have to both sit side by side on the bed in order to watch television, read or hang out. This makes your bedroom a more inviting place to actually live in, and can help you both get accustomed to using the bedroom for pleasant time together and apart.
5. Keep comforters, sheets and other decor simple. While you may love intricate lace, gauzy canopies and lots of candles, the odds are pretty good that even if your husband has not told you, he finds them at least a little inconvenient and even emasculating. While your comforter, pillows and even curtains can and should be complementary or even match, keeping them in simple, strong colors or patterns will go a long way toward helping your husband be comfortable in his bedroom.
6. Place a long trunk at the foot of the bed. This will make your bed feel more "finished" if you do not have a headboard and footboard. It will also provide another place to sit and you can use it to store sweaters, shoes or other items that your husband may currently have trouble finding if you two share a closet.
7. Limit or eliminate frills, lace and cute figurines unless the two of you selected them together. Many couple's rooms are filled with cute remnants from Valentine's Day like adorable bears, or even wedding presents like crystal dolphins or tiny china children dressed in bride and groom outfits. While these things are pleasant to look at and can evoke fond memories, unless you and your partner selected them for bedroom decor together, consider moving them to the hall china display case or another area of the house. They give a room an extremely feminine feel and also can create tension since they are easily broken.
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